No Tears For My Father by Viga Boland
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
I read the sequel to this book before reading this one. I think I liked the sequel better. Viga's family life, her's father's abuse (mental, physical and sexual) was horrific and her mother's indifference to her daughter (trying to survive her own abuse) was heartbreaking and horrific. Every time I wondered why Viga didn't speak up, didn't move out, didn't stand up to her father, she explained it, as if she heard me asking the questions! I cannot judge her as she had to live her life as only she knew how. I know how paralyzing fear can make a person. I think/hope that in today's world, a victim would speak up sooner and confront her abuser. However, children, despite all, still want to love their parent(s) and don't want to make them disappear (jail), so maybe if it happened today Viga would not change anything; I don't know. Again, the writing was good and the memoir compelling; I could hardly put it down. I have never experienced abuse in my life or known anyone who has admitted that they have, so I don't know how I would have dealt with the same situation. This was Viga's story and her reality, and it's amazing how her life has turned out (good husband, loving daughters, good jobs). She is obviously very strong and resilient. Her father was obviously very sick and it's so sad he never was caught and forced to get help. I wanted to punch him and confront him myself while reading the book. I actually yelled at him out loud while reading! It's a very moving memoir of a survivor of a childhood NO child should ever have to experience.